Why don‘t we look for mentors?
Doubts are stopping you from getting a mentor.
I have asked this many times people around me. Well, I asked when it seemed like a mentor could be who would push these people to move forward.
What were the answers to my question?
Well, one of the more often ones is where to find this mentor? Not some random one, but the one who will help me.
Another question is – will this help?
– Will this mentor know how to help me?
– How will I find time for this if I’m already unable to do some things on time?
– Will I be able to be open? Can I trust the mentor that they don’t break our agreement of confidentiality?
I could keep naming more examples, but in all of them, there are a few fears.
We fear looking weak or uneducated.
We fear having to do something we always tried putting to the side.
We fear that we will succeed!
Yes, indeed, we are afraid that we will succeed. And the reason why is because it will change our lives. One way or another, we will lose something.
But how is the mentor involved in this?
To find a mentor means to take responsibility.
It also means:
– We need to name what we want and look for a way to get it.
– We won’t be able to dream of how we would like to change something, have something, be different, and do nothing.
When you find a mentor, you need to do something not just dream and talk but also take action. That is what and stops many people. The understanding is that you need to crawl out of everyday life and try new things or go new ways and that sometimes these ways will not be easy.
Yes, it will be easier to travel with a mentor to the finish line. However, they can’t carry us to the finish line. We have to get there ourselves.
“It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.”
Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist.